This guide will help make caring for an aging parent more manageable. Caring for an aging parent is one of the most profound responsibilities you’ll ever take on. It’s an act of love — and it’s also exhausting, complicated, and often overwhelming.
This is especially true if you’re doing it alone.
According to the 2025 AARP/NAC Caregiving in the U.S. report, 63 million Americans are now family caregivers — that’s one in four adults. Nearly 60% are caring for a parent. And the demands are increasing: the number of family caregivers supporting older adults grew by 32% between 2011 and 2022, from 18 million to over 24 million.
If you’re an only child — or the only sibling who lives nearby, the only one who’s available, or simply the one who stepped up — you may be carrying this weight without anyone to share it. The meals, the medication reminders, the doctor’s appointments, the emotional support, the household tasks, the financial decisions, the constant worry.
It’s a lot. And you don’t have to figure it all out yourself.
This guide will walk you through practical resources, support programs, and strategies to help you care for your aging parent while also taking care of yourself.
The Reality of Caring for an Aging Parent Today
Before we dive into resources, let’s acknowledge what you’re facing. The research paints a clear picture of the demands on family caregivers:
- 25 hours per week — The average time family caregivers spend on caregiving activities
- $7,200 per year — Average out-of-pocket spending on caregiving expenses
- 33% experience depression — One in three caregivers shows clinical symptoms
- 35% experience anxiety — More than one-third report significant anxiety
- 49% report high burden — Nearly half feel overwhelmed by caregiving demands
- Nearly half of caregivers receive no help — no counseling, support groups, respite, or financial assistance
For dementia caregivers, the numbers are even more striking. Care hours for those supporting loved ones with dementia increased nearly 50% over the past decade — from 21 hours per week to 31 hours. And over half now live with the person they’re caring for.
If you’re feeling stretched thin, you’re not alone. And if you’re burning out, that’s not a personal failure — it’s a predictable consequence of an incredibly demanding role.
Government and Nonprofit Programs That Can Help
When caring for an aging parent, many people don’t realize how many support programs exist. These resources can reduce financial strain and improve your parents’ quality of life — and yours.
Food and Nutrition Programs
✓ Meals on Wheels — When caring for an aging parent, nutrition is often one of the first areas where help makes a real difference. Home-delivered meals provide nutrition and daily check-ins. This isn’t just about food — it’s companionship and safety monitoring. Find your local program at MealsOnWheelsAmerica.org.
✓ Congregate Meals — Many churches, senior centers, and community organizations offer free group meals. These provide nutrition plus social connection — helping combat isolation.
✓ Commodity Supplemental Food Program (CSFP) — This USDA program provides free food packages to seniors over 60 with limited income. Learn more and apply at FNS.USDA.gov.
✓ SNAP (Food Stamps) — Many seniors qualify but don’t realize it. Benefits can be used for groceries, and some farmers’ markets accept SNAP with bonus matching programs.
Healthcare and Insurance Assistance
✓ State Health Insurance Assistance Program (SHIP) — Free, unbiased counseling about Medicare, Medicaid, supplemental insurance, and prescription drug programs. Counselors can help your parent understand their options and maximize benefits. Find your state program at SHIPhelp.org.
✓ Medicare Savings Programs — These programs help pay Medicare premiums, deductibles, and copayments for those with limited income. Many people who qualify don’t know these programs exist.
✓ Extra Help (Low-Income Subsidy) — Helps pay prescription drug costs for Medicare beneficiaries with limited income. This can save thousands of dollars per year.
Legal and Financial Assistance
✓ Legal Aid for Seniors — Many areas have free or low-cost legal services for older adults, including help with wills, powers of attorney, and healthcare directives. Your local Area Agency on Aging can connect you with resources.
✓ AARP Foundation — Provides free tax preparation (Tax-Aide), benefits enrollment assistance, and financial coaching for older adults. Visit AARP.org/aarp-foundation.
✓ Benefits Check-Up — The National Council on Aging’s free online tool helps identify federal, state, and local benefits your parent may qualify for. Check at BenefitsCheckUp.org.
Communication and Safety
✓ Lifeline Program — Provides free or discounted phone and internet service for qualifying low-income households. Having reliable communication makes it easier for your parent to reach you when needed. Learn more at LifelineSupport.org.
✓ Low-Income Home Energy Assistance Program (LIHEAP) — Helps with heating and cooling costs, which is critical for seniors’ health and safety. Apply through your state’s social services agency.
San Diego Senior Resources
If you’re caring for an aging parent in San Diego County, these local organizations can help:
Senior Centers
San Diego’s senior centers are community hubs offering far more than activities. Services typically include:
- Free health screenings — blood pressure, hearing, vision, glucose, and more
- Congregate meals — nutritious meals in a social setting
- Social activities and classes — exercise, arts, technology training
- Information and referrals — connections to community resources
- Caregiver support — advice and resources for family caregivers
Key San Diego Organizations
✓ Aging & Independence Services (AIS) — San Diego County’s Area Agency on Aging coordinates services for older adults and their caregivers. Call (800) 339-4661 or visit SanDiegoCounty.gov/HHSA.
✓ Southern Caregiver Resource Center — Free support services including counseling, support groups, respite care coordination, and educational workshops. Serves over 80,000 families annually. Call (800) 827-1008 or visit CaregiverCenter.org.
✓ ElderHelp of San Diego — Provides care coordination, volunteer transportation, and caregiver support. Their home-sharing program can help seniors who need companionship. Visit ElderHelpOfSanDiego.org.
✓ Alzheimer’s San Diego — If your parent has memory concerns, this organization offers free classes, support groups, respite volunteers, and care navigation. Visit AlzSD.org.
Caring for an Aging Parent While Managing Your Own Life Takes a Toll
Here’s the hard truth: you cannot sustain caregiving if you don’t take care of yourself. Research shows that family caregiver health often declines over time — and a sick, burned-out caregiver can’t provide good care.
This isn’t selfish. It’s essential.
Recognize the Warning Signs of Burnout
Caregiver burnout develops gradually. Watch for these signs:
▶ Physical symptoms — Exhaustion even after sleeping, frequent illness, headaches, unexplained aches
▶ Emotional changes — Feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, irritable, or emotionally numb
▶ Behavioral shifts — Withdrawing from friends, losing interest in activities you used to enjoy, neglecting your own health
▶ Resentment — Feeling angry at your parent, other family members, or your situation
If you’re experiencing these symptoms, it’s time to get support — not push harder.
Strategies That Actually Help
✓ Use respite care — Respite home care provides temporary relief while ensuring your parent continues to receive quality care. Research shows it reduces caregiver depression by 30-50% and can delay nursing home placement by 12-22 months. Start before you’re desperate.
✓ Ask for and accept help — Most people want to help but don’t know how. Be specific: “Could you sit with Mom on Tuesday afternoon?” or “Could you pick up her prescriptions this week?”
✓ Join a support group — Connecting with others who understand what you’re going through reduces isolation and provides practical advice. The Southern Caregiver Resource Center and Alzheimer’s San Diego both offer free groups.
✓ Maintain your health — Keep your own medical appointments. Eat reasonably well. Move your body. Get sleep when you can. Your health is not optional — it’s the foundation of everything.
✓ Set boundaries — You cannot do everything. Identify what only you can do versus what could be delegated, simplified, or let go. Perfect is the enemy of sustainable.
When to Consider Professional Home Care
There comes a point when caring for an aging parent alone isn’t sustainable — or safe. Professional home care doesn’t replace you. It supports you.
Consider home care when:
- Your parent needs more help than you can safely provide alone
- You’re missing work, sleep, or your own health appointments
- You’re experiencing signs of burnout
- Your parents’ needs have increased (dementia progression, mobility decline, post-hospitalization)
- You need to return to work or travel
- You simply need a break to recharge
Professional caregivers can help with:
- Personal care — bathing, dressing, grooming, toileting assistance
- Meal preparation — cooking nutritious meals that meet dietary needs
- Medication reminders — ensuring your parent takes medications on schedule
- Light housekeeping — laundry, dishes, tidying up
- Transportation — doctor’s appointments, errands, social activities
- Companionship — conversation, activities, simply being present
- Safety supervision — fall prevention, monitoring for changes
Home care is available from just a few hours per week to around-the-clock support — whatever your family needs.
References
- AARP and National Alliance for Caregiving. (2025). Caregiving in the U.S. 2025. Washington, DC: AARP. aarp.org
- Wolff, J.L., Cornman, J.C., & Freedman, V.A. (2025). The Number of Family Caregivers Helping Older US Adults Increased From 18 Million to 24 Million, 2011–22. Health Affairs, 44(2), 189-195. healthaffairs.org
- Prevalence of depression, anxiety, burden, burnout, and stress in informal caregivers: An umbrella review of meta-analyses. (2025). ScienceDirect. sciencedirect.com
- Caregiver Action Network. (2025). Data & Insights on the Caregiver Experience in the U.S. caregiveraction.org
- SeniorLiving.org. (2025). Family Caregiver Annual Report and Statistics. seniorliving.org
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Caring for an aging parent is one of the hardest things you’ll do. It’s also one of the most meaningful. But doing it completely alone — without support, without breaks, without help — isn’t sustainable for anyone.
At All Heart Home Care, we’ve supported thousands of San Diego families navigating this same journey. Our caregivers become extensions of your family — providing skilled, compassionate care so you can step back when you need to, knowing your parent is in good hands.
Whether you need a few hours of respite each week or more comprehensive support, we’ll create a care plan tailored to your family’s unique situation.
Call us at (619) 736-4677 to talk through your options. There’s no pressure — just a conversation about how we might help. Because taking care of your parent shouldn’t mean losing yourself in the process.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only. Program eligibility requirements and availability may vary. Contact individual organizations directly to verify current services and requirements.



